Tools for a happier life

When you come from a dysfunctional family where addiction has played a dominant role, your “blueprint” is to avoid conflict. The blueprints manifest themselves in the denials of your feelings. You avoid seeking help from others since you don’t trust others to meet your needs. You have, therefore, taught yourself to be strong and manage everything by yourself.

Feelings are our most helpful link to our relationship with ourselves. By suppressing your feelings, you miss out on the possibility of understanding yourself. What you can feel, you can heal.

Another negative aspect of avoiding conflict and seeking others’ improvement, you place your happiness in the hands of others. Therefore, you must learn to love and appreciate yourself, regardless of others’ opinions.

Don’t let someone else’s opinion of you become your reality. — Les Brown

Tell yourself that you can

The words you say to yourself define your reality. Every day, value yourself and tell yourself how awesome you are. Your positive affirmations will keep you going towards your goals in life regardless of the obstacles you encounter.

The primary reason why people are not happy is that they don’t believe they can have a happy life. The lack of belief won’t allow them to take action. If they take action, they won’t have persistence, and the result will be low.

Their minds will tell them, “I told you so,” which confirms their negative belief from the beginning.

Allow yourself to deserve good.

If you focus on the negative things around you all the time, there will be no room for the positive things to enter your mind. It is an art to be able to observe all the beautiful things around you. The next time you are in the forest, sit down by the nearest tree and embrace everything.

Perhaps you see an ant trail where hundreds of ants work as a team and bring building blocks or food to their anthill. When you look up, you might see a blue sky and some cotton-shaped clouds. You look at the clouds, and your imagination tells you that one of them looks like a dragon.

When we were children, the summers appeared to last forever. The reason was that…